Does ‘Nice’ Really Finish Last?
Picture the scenario:
It’s the morning after. You get out of bed to make him or her a cup of tea. You sense them looking at you intensely. You act all shy and bashful hoping they’re wanting more of what you gave that night. They then open their mouth to ask you, while you hand them a hot drink,
“Why are you so nice?” You process the question.
“What do you mean?” you ask.
“You’re just too nice” they reply. So instead of that heated morning passion you were hoping for, you have this human questioning your behaviour and personality, and because it has been said in that certain tone, you know that they’re not talking about your “niceness” as a positive thing! Needless to say, you don’t hear from them again.
I can’t be alone in this (well I hope I’m not). Have you ever been told you are too nice? How did you react? What does being too nice actually mean? When you tell someone they are ” too nice”, what is it you’re implying? Is being too nice a deal breaker?
Why do we find it so hard to build relationships with people that show us nothing but kindness and goodness? “They’re really nice, but just too nice if you know what I mean.” I’ve heard this a lot, especially from other women. Being truly nice is about being kind, polite and friendly consistently, so I really don’t see what the problem is! Why is “niceness” being discouraged? Surely we need more of it.
Ladies be honest… When you meet a genuinely nice guy, do you tend to flee and find the nearest bad guy? Are ‘nice’ people really that bland and boring? We know the ‘bad’ one is wrong for us, they’ll never treat us the way we think we deserve to be treated, and instead of running for the hills, we jump on for the ride. ‘Nice’ seems to look good on paper, but it seems neither sex actually wants ‘nice’. Am I wrong? I truly would love to hear your views, because I’m confused.
I say in this day and age, we could all do with a little more ‘niceness’ in our lives.
By Nefertiti LDN